Breathing space is a mutual support group for parents and carers of children with eating disorders.
Anorexia is confusing!
Initially it hides in the recesses of your child’s mind. A secret friend that they know you would not approve of. Your child can lose a lot of weight before you see it in their face and anyway aren’t they are all shooting up and thinning out at this age?
By the time you’re concerned anorexia has a foothold. Overburdened GPs cannot be an expert in all conditions and it may be weeks before they’re referred to the eating disorder team.
You know now there is something very wrong and being told your child has anorexia feels like stepping blindfold into an unknown, hostile world. It’s so hard to understand this slippery interloper that has control of your child and made you their enemy as you try to restore them.
As parents, instinctively you throw all your energy into rescuing your child. Anorexia, with it’s cover blown, fights furiously to hold control. Your child, without enough sugar in the blood to allow their brain to function normally, is deaf to rational argument and determined not to eat. What you thought would be rectified in months, can take years of determination and hard work to combat.
You will win! You have a secret weapon more powerful than all that anorexia can throw at you - your unconditional love for your child, and, more than this, buried deep sometimes, their love for you.
Our middle child developed anorexia when she was nine and our oldest a few years later. They are both healthy now, though the youngest is still needing treatment. The eating disorder team has been a fantastic ally in the fighting of this pernicious condition. But they are stretched increasingly thin so when the strain started to wear us down, we had to look elsewhere for support.
Friends and family have been so good but we would have loved to talk with other parents who where on the same road and understood what we were finding so confusing and elusive. So we have set up Breathing Space with some like minded parents to provide a space to let off steam as we share the experiences thrown at us and, perhaps share insights gleaned on the way.
If all this sound familiar to you and you are finding it hard to care for a child with an eating disorder, come and join us, we know how you feel!
We meet on the first Monday of every month at the Taste Cafe (426 Woodbridge Road), 7:30 till 9pm.
John 07849 395332
Catherine 07810 110941
Email address: firstname.lastname@example.org